Pooja Basnet

One of the biggest turning points in my life was deciding to take a gap year after finishing school. For years, I had followed a fixed path studying science and preparing for medical entrance exams, believing that this was the only right way forward. But somewhere along the way, I began to question whether that path truly reflected who I was or what I truly wanted. Choosing to pause, step away from that plan and give myself space to explore was not easy. It felt uncertain, even scary at times. I had no fixed answer to give when people asked, “What are you doing now?” and that made me uncomfortable. During this time, I interned at Manzil Welfare Society, a nonprofit organization. I took on responsibilities, led sessions, and started interacting with people. I began noticing how much I enjoyed creating meaningful experiences, supporting others, and learning through real-world situations. This challenged the way I used to think. Earlier, I only valued academic success. But now, I’ve started to value emotional intelligence, reflection, growth, and connection. When I look back at the Pooja who hadn’t embarked on this journey, I see someone who was more reactive, especially with anger. I used to act on impulse and I rarely paused to reflect on my actions. Now, I’ve started working on my aggression. I try to notice the small things I do, reflect on them and ask myself deeper questions like, why did I react that way? These small shifts have made a big difference. I’ve become someone who doesn’t just follow what’s expected. I’ve learned that it’s okay not to have all the answers, as long as I’m growing and staying true to myself. This journey has made me stronger, not in a louder way, but in a quiet way that’s changed how I see myself and the world around me.